I dreamed the other night that I had wronged another person so much it could not be forgiven. The other person happened to be a vampire. The vampire pretended to accept my apology, yet grabbed my arm and bit into it. As I watched him slowly bite, I felt no pain as the teeth went into my arm. Then I felt an icy hot feeling course through my veins. Suddenly I became a vampire myself. However, I was starving because I would not let myself feed on others.
Kind of gruesome, I know. But it reminded me of a co-worker I once knew many years ago who had disdain for me, partly because I was in HR.
The disdain stemmed from an incident I felt was minor and was no more than a misunderstanding (wronged another person). I thought it could easily be cleared up and fences would be mended. Instead I was informed by the co-worker that HR should not be part of misunderstandings (wrong could not be forgiven). I eventually surmised the co-worker saw HR as judgmental “finger pointers” and was giving me a taste of my own medicine (grabbed my arm and bit into it). I remember feeling stunned by this (I watched him slowly bite, I felt no pain) because I did not think the misunderstanding was anymore than just that. After my attempt to mend failed, things were never the same between me and this co-worker. They treated me coldly from then on (an icy hot feeling coursed through my veins).
It frustrated me that I was unable to build the bridge back. This led to feeling a little angry with my previous co-worker and a little unforgiving (I became a vampire myself). I knew this was wrong. I was an adult and more importantly I was supposed to be an HR pro. In reality, the incident and the resulting aftermath of bad feelings were minor. I could not let minor inconveniences turn me into a hateful person (I would not let myself feed on others).
Since that time, years have passed, jobs have changed and I never saw that person again. As I recall the dream and the incident, it is clear the lesson I learned from this. No matter how much someone tries to suck the life out of you, it is not proper to do the same in return.